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A Kwik Confidence Boost

How do you raise your self-confidence and self-worth?

Today, I want to talk about self-esteem and self-worth. This is a topic that comes up a lot in our Kwik Brain community. My goal is to communicate with you as these conversations come up to discuss them in-depth.

Many of you know I had a head injury when I was a kid. That caused learning challenges, making me feel like I didn’t fit in because I didn’t know things. I think it’s common to want not only fit in but also stand out.

In my mind, self-esteem is your own perception of your self-worth. But what does it mean to truly believe in yourself? Listen in as I talk about two keys that helped me build my confidence.

If you’re inspired, I want to invite you to join me in my brand NEW 7-day course, specifically designed to boost your confidence. I know it sounds too good to be true, but I give you step-by-step guides using the accelerated learning model to make you unstoppable in a short time. Visit kwikconfidence.com to join me today.

"You are here for a reason and you don’t need anything to externally dictate what you are worth. Your personal value is for you to discover and embrace."

Jim Kwik

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It Starts With You

  • In school, Jim’s superpower was all about being invisible.
  • He was called ‘the boy with the broken brain’ and bullied a little.
  • Everyone has their own story regarding difficulty.
  • In your formative years, it’s not always easy to know who you are.
  • Jim would often doubt himself, and then shrink and hide.
  • In the Marvel Movie, Shang-Chi, the main character is an amazing martial artist who says: Stop Hiding.
  • That’s what Jim did in school. He shrank, sitting in the back, and behind taller kids. He didn’t want to be seen.
  • Deep down, even when you’re hiding, part of you wants to be seen and heard—even in those stressful moments where you just want to hide.
  • Self-esteem and self-worth don’t come from anyone else.
  • They have to come from you.
  • It starts with self-love.
  • No amount of love or encouragement or pride can fill your spirit like when it comes from yourself.
  • The first key to building your self-confidence and self-esteem is having the curiosity to get to know yourself.
  • Self-awareness is a superpower.
  • If you want greater self-esteem or self-worth, the first part is self.
  • Get to know yourself by having the curiosity to discover who you are.
  • You are special because you are an individual.
  • Nobody is the same person, even identical twins. Everyone has different values and beliefs.
  • That’s why you meditate, journal, go to talk therapy—to discover who you are inside.
  • It’s not interpersonal­­: yourself to others. It’s intrapersonal: self to self.
  • Discover what you stand for, the things you believe, your personal ‘I Am’ statements.
  • The second key—after you get to know yourself and develop your self-awareness—is having the courage and confidence to be yourself.
  • Half of the process is discovering your sense of self, but the other half is living it and really developing yourself.

The Journey Of Discovery

  • Many of you know Jim’s story with the X-Men.
  • At nine years old, he was defined by an adult who called him, ‘the boy with the broken brain’.
  • That label became his limit.
  • He used to ride his bike through his neighborhood because he read that’s where the X-Men school was.
  • Comic books helped him learn how to read, so he really wanted to find Professor X’s School for the Gifted, where he trained all the mutants.
  • The X-Men were Jim’s favorite superheroes growing up because they didn’t fit in. They were marginalized and bullied.
  • Jim wanted to find his superpowers and his superfriends.
  • The things that made them different, made them special. But he didn’t feel like his differences made him special.
  • Even though he never found the school when he was young, years later he did get to work with the X-Men.
  • He helped the actors and crew learn to speed read scripts, memorize lines, and develop deep focus on set.
  • The very first shot was at the X-Men school and Jim got to see his superhero friends come to life.
  • When he got home, there was a package waiting for him.
  • It was a photo of Jim and the entire X-Men cast with a note from the Chairman of the studio saying, “Jim, thank you for sharing your superpowers with all of us. I know you’ve been searching for your superhero school since you were a child. Here’s your class photo.”
  • That photo reminds Jim of when he was struggling with self-esteem and self-worth.
  • But he was committed to knowing who he was and finding his passion and purpose.
  • We’ve done multiple episodes on passion; you can listen here and here.
  • Passion is what lights you up. And purpose is how to use that passion to light other people up.
  • Part of building Jim’s self-esteem was finding his purpose and living it.
  • Just having a superpower doesn’t make you a superhero.
  • You have to develop your superpowers and share them to help others. That’s purpose.
  • The key is to have both: power and purpose.

Be True To Yourself

  • Once you find your power and your purpose, you can embrace your talents and unique skills.
  • You have unique abilities and traits that allow you to find things you excel in.
  • And maybe you can turn that into a career.
  • You can add five days to your week when you do what you love and love what you do.
  • But you have to start by having the courage to be yourself.
  • As you find more and more of what you’re passionate about, you’ll become exposed to more experiences and situations that help you discover where your heart is.
  • Follow your heart, just bring your brain with you.
  • The X-Men movie Jim was on set for was all about time travel.
  • Days of Future Past takes place in a future that’s very dim, dark, and dreary.
  • Professor X sends Wolverine back in time to meet a younger version of himself so he can give him advice to change the direction of the future.
  • Who wouldn’t love to go back in time, to a younger version of yourself and give them a message?
  • What would you tell yourself?
  • Remember, the key to self-esteem and self-worth is twofold: Have the curiosity to know yourself and the courage to be yourself.
  • But self-esteem and self-respect are also the fruit of self-discipline.
  • You have to get yourself to do the things that you need to do in order to really be the person you want to be.
  • If you could go back and talk to your nine-year-old self, what would you tell them? What do they need to hear?
  • If you were able to project into the future—ten, twenty, thirty years—what would your future self say to you?

Who Would You Make Proud?

  • Part of talking about self-worth is accepting that you can be proud of yourself.
  • There’s a difference between ego and pride.
  • It’s important to acknowledge how amazing you really are and acknowledging the good qualities you have.
  • When it comes to making people proud of you, the two most important people you should want to make proud are the younger and older versions of yourself.
  • You can’t always control how other people, family, or friends view you.
  • But you can think about how you can work to make the younger and older version of yourself proud.
  • Are you living with integrity and kindness?
  • Another part of self-love is encouraging yourself.
  • Mel Robbins with the High-Five Habit believes you should high-five the mirror every morning while brushing your teeth.
  • Remember: if your heart is beating, you have purpose.
  • You are here for a reason and you don’t need anything to externally dictate what you are worth.
  • Your personal value is for you to discover and embrace.
  • It starts by having the curiosity to get to know yourself, and then having the courage to be yourself.
  • Don’t hide, or shrink down, or try to be invisible and hide.
  • The world needs you to step into who you are.
  • Don’t dim your lights because you’re scared it’s going to hurt somebody else’s eyes.
  • If anything, you should burn even brighter and be an example for people around you.
  • When you’re taking your final breaths, no one else’s opinions or expectations of your worth are going to matter.
  • What’s going to matter is how you loved, how you learned, and how you lived.

Find Your Confidence

  • Remember: First, have the curiosity to know yourself. Then have the courage to be yourself.
  • Focus on making the younger and older version of you proud.
  • The life you live are the lessons you teach.
  • That’s why we created a course, a very short program, where we’re going to have an honest conversation about self-confidence.
  • What does it mean to really believe in yourself? To know and really own your self-worth.
  • Maybe you’ve gone through our program and you’ve learned how to remember names but don’t feel confident talking to new people.
  • Or you’ve improved your memory but giving a report in front of people is terrifying for you.
  • Jim knows what it’s like to be so afraid of giving a book report that he lied about doing it.
  • If you struggle with your own self-confidence and self-esteem, and want to learn more about the tools and techniques that helped Jim, go to KwikConfidence.com for more information.

Share With Us

  • Take a screenshot and tag us (@JimKwik) and tell us one thing you’re proud of.
  • If you’re interested in learning more about how to grow your confidence, join us at KwikConfidence.com.
  • Don’t forget that you can always text Jim, his contact information is in his Instagram bio @JimKwik.

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