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November 4, 2021

A Kwik Confidence Boost

You are here for a reason and you don’t need anything to externally dictate what you are worth. Your personal value is for you to discover and embrace.

Jim Kwik

How do you raise your self-confidence and self-worth?

Today, I want to talk about self-esteem and self-worth. This is a topic that comes up a lot in our Kwik Brain community. My goal is to communicate with you as these conversations come up to discuss them in-depth.

Many of you know I had a head injury when I was a kid. That caused learning challenges, making me feel like I didn’t fit in because I didn’t know things. I think it’s common to want not only fit in but also stand out.

In my mind, self-esteem is your own perception of your self-worth. But what does it mean to truly believe in yourself? Listen in as I talk about two keys that helped me build my confidence.

If you’re inspired, I want to invite you to join me in my brand NEW 7-day course, specifically designed to boost your confidence. I know it sounds too good to be true, but I give you step-by-step guides using the accelerated learning model to make you unstoppable in a short time. Visit kwikconfidence.com to join me today.

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Show Notes

It Starts With You

  • In school, Jim’s superpower was all about being invisible.
  • He was called 'the boy with the broken brain' and bullied a little.
  • Everyone has their own story regarding difficulty.
  • In your formative years, it’s not always easy to know who you are.
  • Jim would often doubt himself, and then shrink and hide.
  • In the Marvel Movie, Shang-Chi, the main character is an amazing martial artist who says: Stop Hiding.
  • That’s what Jim did in school. He shrank, sitting in the back, and behind taller kids. He didn’t want to be seen.
  • Deep down, even when you’re hiding, part of you wants to be seen and heard—even in those stressful moments where you just want to hide.
  • Self-esteem and self-worth don’t come from anyone else.
  • They have to come from you.
  • It starts with self-love.
  • No amount of love or encouragement or pride can fill your spirit like when it comes from yourself.
  • The first key to building your self-confidence and self-esteem is having the curiosity to get to know yourself.
  • Self-awareness is a superpower.
  • If you want greater self-esteem or self-worth, the first part is self.
  • Get to know yourself by having the curiosity to discover who you are.
  • You are special because you are an individual.
  • Nobody is the same person, even identical twins. Everyone has different values and beliefs.
  • That’s why you meditate, journal, go to talk therapy—to discover who you are inside.
  • It’s not interpersonal­­: yourself to others. It’s intrapersonal: self to self.
  • Discover what you stand for, the things you believe, your personal ‘I Am’ statements.
  • The second key—after you get to know yourself and develop your self-awareness—is having the courage and confidence to be yourself.
  • Half of the process is discovering your sense of self, but the other half is living it and really developing yourself.

The Journey Of Discovery

  • Many of you know Jim’s story with the X-Men.
  • At nine years old, he was defined by an adult who called him, 'the boy with the broken brain'.
  • That label became his limit.
  • He used to ride his bike through his neighborhood because he read that’s where the X-Men school was.
  • Comic books helped him learn how to read, so he really wanted to find Professor X’s School for the Gifted, where he trained all the mutants.
  • The X-Men were Jim’s favorite superheroes growing up because they didn’t fit in. They were marginalized and bullied.
  • Jim wanted to find his superpowers and his superfriends.
  • The things that made them different, made them special. But he didn’t feel like his differences made him special.
  • Even though he never found the school when he was young, years later he did get to work with the X-Men.
  • He helped the actors and crew learn to speed read scripts, memorize lines, and develop deep focus on set.
  • The very first shot was at the X-Men school and Jim got to see his superhero friends come to life.
  • When he got home, there was a package waiting for him.
  • It was a photo of Jim and the entire X-Men cast with a note from the Chairman of the studio saying, “Jim, thank you for sharing your superpowers with all of us. I know you’ve been searching for your superhero school since you were a child. Here’s your class photo.”
  • That photo reminds Jim of when he was struggling with self-esteem and self-worth.
  • But he was committed to knowing who he was and finding his passion and purpose.
  • We've done multiple episodes on passion; you can listen here and here.
  • Passion is what lights you up. And purpose is how to use that passion to light other people up.
  • Part of building Jim's self-esteem was finding his purpose and living it.
  • Just having a superpower doesn’t make you a superhero.
  • You have to develop your superpowers and share them to help others. That’s purpose.
  • The key is to have both: power and purpose.

Be True To Yourself

  • Once you find your power and your purpose, you can embrace your talents and unique skills.
  • You have unique abilities and traits that allow you to find things you excel in.
  • And maybe you can turn that into a career.
  • You can add five days to your week when you do what you love and love what you do.
  • But you have to start by having the courage to be yourself.
  • As you find more and more of what you’re passionate about, you’ll become exposed to more experiences and situations that help you discover where your heart is.
  • Follow your heart, just bring your brain with you.
  • The X-Men movie Jim was on set for was all about time travel.
  • Days of Future Past takes place in a future that’s very dim, dark, and dreary.
  • Professor X sends Wolverine back in time to meet a younger version of himself so he can give him advice to change the direction of the future.
  • Who wouldn’t love to go back in time, to a younger version of yourself and give them a message?
  • What would you tell yourself?
  • Remember, the key to self-esteem and self-worth is twofold: Have the curiosity to know yourself and the courage to be yourself.
  • But self-esteem and self-respect are also the fruit of self-discipline.
  • You have to get yourself to do the things that you need to do in order to really be the person you want to be.
  • If you could go back and talk to your nine-year-old self, what would you tell them? What do they need to hear?
  • If you were able to project into the future—ten, twenty, thirty years—what would your future self say to you?

Who Would You Make Proud?

  • Part of talking about self-worth is accepting that you can be proud of yourself.
  • There’s a difference between ego and pride.
  • It’s important to acknowledge how amazing you really are and acknowledging the good qualities you have.
  • When it comes to making people proud of you, the two most important people you should want to make proud are the younger and older versions of yourself.
  • You can’t always control how other people, family, or friends view you.
  • But you can think about how you can work to make the younger and older version of yourself proud.
  • Are you living with integrity and kindness?
  • Another part of self-love is encouraging yourself.
  • Mel Robbins with the High-Five Habit believes you should high-five the mirror every morning while brushing your teeth.
  • Remember: if your heart is beating, you have purpose.
  • You are here for a reason and you don’t need anything to externally dictate what you are worth.
  • Your personal value is for you to discover and embrace.
  • It starts by having the curiosity to get to know yourself, and then having the courage to be yourself.
  • Don’t hide, or shrink down, or try to be invisible and hide.
  • The world needs you to step into who you are.
  • Don’t dim your lights because you’re scared it’s going to hurt somebody else’s eyes.
  • If anything, you should burn even brighter and be an example for people around you.
  • When you’re taking your final breaths, no one else’s opinions or expectations of your worth are going to matter.
  • What’s going to matter is how you loved, how you learned, and how you lived.

Find Your Confidence

  • Remember: First, have the curiosity to know yourself. Then have the courage to be yourself.
  • Focus on making the younger and older version of you proud.
  • The life you live are the lessons you teach.
  • That’s why we created a course, a very short program, where we’re going to have an honest conversation about self-confidence.
  • What does it mean to really believe in yourself? To know and really own your self-worth.
  • Maybe you’ve gone through our program and you’ve learned how to remember names but don’t feel confident talking to new people.
  • Or you’ve improved your memory but giving a report in front of people is terrifying for you.
  • Jim knows what it’s like to be so afraid of giving a book report that he lied about doing it.
  • If you struggle with your own self-confidence and self-esteem, and want to learn more about the tools and techniques that helped Jim, go to KwikConfidence.com for more information.

Share With Us

  • Take a screenshot and tag us (@JimKwik) and tell us one thing you’re proud of.
  • If you’re interested in learning more about how to grow your confidence, join us at KwikConfidence.com.
  • Don’t forget that you can always text Jim, his contact information is in his Instagram bio @JimKwik.

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